I hate my husband,... What about you?

I don't know if I can find my true happiness lately. I'm a hard working woman that is sophisticated . I work my butt off with 2 jobs. (Good thing we had no children of our own),I separated from my husband (physically not legally), since last August. I can't get him to not spend all the time with me that he does. I'm unhappy with him around all the time. I know that I don't love him anymore and I quit school recently because I can't focus on anything with him hanging out here. I'm looking for advice. I just want you to know I take my interest and success with business seriously. I hope the phase I'm in is short-lived. I want this part of me to 'die', so I can live comfortably. I felt like I needed to write to you in this confidence. My struggles are different but I feel as tho, it may as well be fighting with a boa constrictor. This is about as specific as I can get right now. Also I have not had a drivers license in 14 years, so it makes it more of a difficult spot to be in, and not knowing many people who can help out in a pinch.The last thing I want to do is have a pity party or be felt sorry for. I just want to let you get to know me a little better. I feel fortunate I could tell you this much. I have said enough for now. I'm having some very depressing days. You all could make it for me by telling me here if you have had any similar experiences. I look forward to everything we all share as a group and a family. I'm trying to figure this all out with what is happening in my personal life and want to do it with as much grace as possible whatever I do. I need a lot of prayers. I hope you don't mind me leaning on you. I know you have your own struggles. The objective here is to get you to know me and let you know that you are not alone. There is power in numbers and by brainstorming here, we can accomplish a lot without gettting physical with the person(s) in our lives that create strife in them instead of a harmonious relationship, where a household can be be run like a finely tune machine.

You know, I've found everything I've tried to do to get what belongs to me, has backfired. I've tried being the good cop, the bad cop, being a best friend, reverse psychology, threats that he'd be kicked out of the trailer we shared if he didn't get it cleaned up. I told him I'd call the health department on him. I hate this guy, I've never seen such irresponsibiity. He's had 6 trips back to where we lived he's spent 20 minutes to 45 minutes each visit. Instead of getting what belongs to me and getting it out of there he sits his candy butt down when he gets there, jacks up the boom box, then he makes himself a strong pot of coffee and will sit there doing nothing ( figuring the world owes him and where's his milllions ) and will smoke himself to oblivian cuz of course he missed out while he was driving. There he will sit and chain smoke until, he realizes he should have called me to let me know he arrived at the trailer safe but I call first. "Oh, I was just going to call you." Lies. Any opportunity to do so, end up with no verbal communication and I'm in need so to get a response out of him; ends up with asking him at least a minimum of three times, getting louder each time (because of course he's not deaf but has selective hearing). But get this earlier in this writing, I said I as lucky... because I didn't get a woman beater, but only because he couldn't fight his was out of a paper bag. I'm not so lucky, ...I ended up with a manipulative, bum and he cannot be responsible for his own actions because he has excuses that on paer would make it a mile long. I don't get anyhing out of this realtionship but pure aggravation. I'm going to end upo at legal aid and filing for divorce. He's stolen money frm our joint checking account and gone camping in the State Park. When he needs money my things go to the pawn shop and he's too lazy to get them out of pawn so they end up getting sold by the pawn shop owner like a brand new Meade telescope, that can hook up to your puter and you can follow the night sky. And what about the laptop he ended up letting it go, too. All he had to do was make phone calls to the pawn shop owner every month and let them know he's having trouble paying on the items. But noooooo! Every time I reminded him he made a fake atttempt at alling them and saying everything was all right with the items that they would be lost. 5 months had gone by. ...they were sold because of no phone calls made to make arrangements on the payments. This guy creeps me out. He's clinging to me like he's a second skin, ewwwwww. Doesn't shave, take a bath, change his clothes and he goes to the doctor's office that way. It's embarrassing. Everywhere he goes he makes a trail of disaster. I organize the cabinets and drawers, my way. It takes him one time, to go rifling through them looking for a damn, nail or a screw and messing everything up so when I need to find something I have to do without... He let the leak in the trailer, soak the carpeting and would pull the wet rug up, so we wouldn't have black mold. Y'all I've got a real winner here. I hate my husband. I think I've hated him from the beginning. Right now tho, I'm stuck with his sorry ass. Tell me what your experiences have been so I don't feel like I'm alone out here. I need your comments. He's just sitting here looking at me and I feel like I want to puke.